I write a lot of notes to myself: story ideas, grocery lists, wines to try, blog post ideas…
But the most important things I haven’t been writing down, are the things I want my kids to learn from me by example.
The problem is this: Not only am I not always the most stellar example-maker around, I also have a terrible memory (thus all the lists). I want the best for my kids, but sometimes I just can’t remember to teach the lesson when it arises at times they aren’t by my side.
So I decided to write a list for my son and daughter. I found a scrap of paper in my handbag & started jotting lessons down on it.
It was filled up within a day, so I added more to a piece of notebook paper, then some on my phone, and so on.
I figured what better place to share my list – so far – than right here. A place where people are more than willing to tell me what I forgot to put on it.
Without further ado, here are some lessons I want my kids to learn. Please feel free to add more in the comments – I’ll take any help at this parenting gig that I can get.
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Perfect!
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Treat people the way you want to be treated. Even if its difficult. Your kindness will stick with them, making them feel awful will stick with you.
I love the way you put that.
Wonderful! I’m going to print this if that’s okay with you.
Absolutely!
Of course, TishM!
You should put this on a plaque and sell it!
Free for all to print & hang on their fridges!
Kim, this is beautiful! And I love all the additional comments from others, too. Do you think you’ll make this a graphic image for printing? As it is it won’t print on one sheet for me…although that could be user error!
I can’t get it to print either:( Am I doing something wrong? Probably;) Love this list! Would love to print for my fridge!
There’s so much wonderful advice on this list, Kim, I don’t know where to start. A lot of it is common sense and common courtesy, but that does need to be taught. Like picking up things that fall. I am always telling my boys to do that – it’s just polite. I really love all of this!
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Common Sense & Common Courtesy aren’t as rampant these days as they were when I was little. I love for them to become trendy, but until then, I’m going to make sure I instill them in my kids while they’re young.
Lovely list.
I would add:
“Rest every day in some way. Your body and mind need it, whether you’re 5 or 50.”
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Absolutely! Nap now, nap later. I dig it.
Mine are middle schoolers – I’m trying to about gratitude. With that in mind:
Looking to the future is great, but don’t forget to appreciate what you have, and where you are RIGHT NOW!
Learn what it is to have “enough”. (Enough food, enough possessions, strength, time, money…)
Oooohhh I love the “enough!” Appreciate what’s right in front of you, instead of “needing” the next big thing.
Just lovely… needs to go in a frame for all parents to give to their kids!!
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Just lovely… Put it in a frame and hang on your wall.
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Thanks, Chris! And I think I heard that you shared it? Much appreciated!
Chris Carter shared this on her Facebook page and I just had to stop by and read. What a fantastic post … thank you! Please, if you have a moment, I’d love for you to stop by my Monday “Much Ado” link up and include it.
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Thanks for coming by Michelle! I’ll try to pop over soon…
Lovely. Just like you.
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Recently found your blog and so glad I did! This is awesome!
I would add: Don’t compromise who you are in order to please others. You will only end up disappointed in yourself.
Hi Lisa – thanks! And I love your addition to my list.
I loved all of this, but “Know who has trouble saying ‘I love you’ and let them show you, instead.” put a lump in my throat and a tear in my eye.
So lovely!
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That one is so me. I tell my kids all the time, but I have a hard time telling grown-ups. But I show. I really do show it.
My father is of German descent. In the German language, there isn’t really a word for love between a parent and a child – the love is assumed. So my father isn’t orally demonstrative. And that’s totally fine, I’ve never doubted his love for me. I married into a family that is very orally demonstrative and I love it! So I’ve decided to tell my dad that I love him every time I speak to him (we’re long distance) and to not be concerned that he doesn’t say it back. We’re both doing the best we can, and we love each other. And that’s more than enough for me.
I love this list! One thing I thought of to add,
No matter how much you’re looking forward to something or wanting something to be over; don’t wish away time. Once it’s gone you never get it back.
When I’m sniffing new baby heads or watching my kids laugh the belly laugh, I wish I had a Pause button. So, yes, I agree.
LOVE!!
Thanks!
Lovely. Funny. Sweet. A perfect mix of humor/real world advice. Now, take thee to a Letterpress designer.
On it!
LOVE this! It’s absolutely perfect!
Aw, thanks Lynn!
Love this so much Kim. I love how you can be hilariously funny and then overwhelmingly thoughtful and sweet.
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That means a lot, Jessica.
Sometimes the right thing to do is also the hardest.
Yes, it is.
Oh my goodness-I love this so much! Printing and putting on our fridge!
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Thanks, Nina!
What a beautiful post. Thanks for sharing!
This is just wonderful!! All of the ideas of how to get them into my home are now swimming in my head. Got to get this printed out and FAST!!
Always keep change in your car for kids with lemonade stands. Always pay twice as much as they are asking!
Chase your dreams; face your fears.
I love this list. Thanks so much! If you do an update, be sure to post it! In the meantime, I’m going to print and hang this one
Good list! One I would add is “Speak when spoken to.” This is one I’m working on with my 4 year old, as she tends to ignore people when they say “Hello” or “Good Morning!”
This is a good one, too. I’ve taught mine to respond with a question and then listen to the response. Funny that we have to teach these things, but they are important!!
Great list!!
I would add…Private parts are called that for a reason…don’t touch them in public.
Also, when you shake someone’s hand, be sure to look them in the eye as well.
Cheers!
This is so freaking cool! This may be random, but my favorite is “Learn to make people laugh without making anyone cry.”
I want to take this list and, because kids and teens can only focus in on so much, “feature” one item for a week on my fridge. Over Christmas break, I took all my magnetic writing boards off my fridge, and now just write directly on my fridge. The kids find it cool and hey, it gives me more room to “preach it”
Hmmmm, what to add??? “don’t ever stop your flow of tears. if your heart is releasing them, then let them out.”
Love it! Simple tips, but powerful as well. It’s the list I think I try to achieve, but forget to actually teach to the little ones.
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You got me all teary, girl – love this. Pinning (to Pinterest, and to the front of my kids’ shirts in hopes they’ll absorb the wisdom).
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I would add:
Say what you mean and mean what you say
When you see a person who has special needs, always say ‘hi’ and if you ever hear someone being mean to them stand up to them.
If there is a kid who is overweight, be nice – that child does not get to choose yet what to eat. Their parents are responsible, so be kind and teach others
Never ever say ‘no’ to your mama no matter how old you are. I still yes to mine.
I loved it!! I would add: Pray Daily and Forgive, always forgive
Found this on Pinterest; mind if I reblog it?
Hi Shelley- Thanks so much for the compliment.
I prefer my graphic posts not get re-blogged, but shared on social media is always VERY much appreciated. Thanks for asking!
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