This video both infuriates and scares the shit out of me.
It is 10 minutes of a 69-year-old bus monitor being bullied, cursed at, threatened, mocked, poked and insulted by a group of preteen kids. Read all about it in the NPR article that featured this video and an interview with the monitor after the incident.
I saw this on a friend’s personal Facebook page this morning, and it has been bothering me all day.
Really, really bothering me.
This comes on the heels of something a 7yo boy said to my husband at a soccer game this past weekend.
My husband was on the field, volunteering to help out as the season winds down, and was guiding a group of First Grade boys to become better soccer players.
The ball was headed towards to opponent’s goal, and the boys were just standing around.
Husband said, in an encouraging way, “Guys, c’mon and go get the ball, let’s bring it in!”
A 7yo boy huffed, looked him straight in the eye, and replied “It’s NOT the end of the WORLD. It’s JUST a SOCCER game.” Then crossed him arms and stood there like a lump.
Now, you may argue that the first incident is much worse than the latter.
But I think the latter is what can – quite possibly – lead to the first.
Since when did it become acceptable for kids to talk to adults this way?
When I was a kid, I would have been kicked into next Tuesday if I ever spoke to an adult like that boy did to my husband.
It also needs to be said that it never, ever would have even crossed my mind to talk fresh to a senior citizen, never mind suggest shitting and ejaculating in her mouth, as these kids did. Disgusting! Mind boggling!
I don’t get all riled up over much, but I am huge on respect.
Instead of getting on a soapbox and shouting about how frustrated I am about this, I’m just going to ask you all something:
Please, please put respect on top of the list of things you instill in your kids.
Don’t let them talk back to you.
Don’t let them disregard the guidance of their well-intentioned soccer coach.
Don’t let them either bully a bus monitor or sit idly by as others do so.
Be prepared to ruin their lives if they do disrespect another person, and not let them experience joy again until they can prove trustworthy again. Prove they understand how to treat others.
Make sure what you expect of them is clear, and don’t be afraid to punish them when they disappoint you, when they are a disappointment to their own potential.
They will fall, they will make mistakes, they will give in to peer pressure (everyone does), but they deserve to know what it feels like to face consequences.
They deserve to experience being humbled, experience learning lessons.
They deserve to know that it feels bad to be an asshole, and how great it feels to be a respectful, considerate, compassionate, kind human being.