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Motherhood changes a lot more than just the amount of sleep we
don’t get. It changes our home lives, marriages and, as today’s Anonymous Guest Blogger writes about below, our social calendars. When I read her submission, I nodded a resounding “Been there, girlfriend”.
The Best Laid Plans of Mice and Mums
Call me crazy, but I’m one of those people who like to spend time with my friends. I have a beautiful family who I love spending time with, but I have discovered that there is something great about being able to share parental angst with other mums.
But actually catching up with other mums is a lot harder than it seems.
I work 4 days a week and I usually spend the weekends with family (meaning trips to the grandparents, uncles and aunts), so that leaves me one day a week to catch up with friends.
I try and I try but for some reason I’m lucky if I get to see anyone on that day. I arrange play dates and coffee dates and about half are cancelled and of those that aren’t about half of those are late.
One day, sick of pinning my hopes on just one person at time, I decided to arrange a few ladies and their kids to come over for a group coffee/playdate on my “day off”. Four of my friends, said that yes, they would come. I figured that even if half of them cancelled, I’d still have a few friends to spend time with.
I was wrong.
On the day, I told my kids that their friends were coming over to play. I cooked a fresh batch of cookies and was looking forward to spending some time with my friends. But then, one by one they cancelled. The last cancellation was half an hour after they were supposed to come over. The kids and I ended up sitting in the lounge room watching The Wiggles so I didn’t have to listen to my son ask where his friends were.
Last year 10 people who said they would come to my son’s birthday party didn’t show up. Fortunately he was a 2 year old on a sugar high and didn’t realise that a third of the guests didn’t arrive, and the people who did were mostly family.
I know other mums are busy too. I know kids can ruin the best laid plans (I have two of them). I know other mums have things in their lives outside of me. But seriously, I make the time and effort to see you, the least you could do is arrive roughly on time, or at all. I can forgive the occasional lateness, I mean who hasn’t had their toddler tip an entire bottle of water over their head just when you’re about to leave? I understand, I really do. But honestly. I’m tired of understanding.
So please, the next time you cancel a play date because you are having a hard day, spare a thought for the person you are cancelling on, because maybe they are having a hard day too.
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